Zag Talk

Check out the question published recently in “The News”. There are many similar questions that are published in local newspapers/magazines where the girl complains about how she gave her trust and more to her boyfriend who ended up taking everything and then ditching her, however this one takes the cake.

While it’s true that not all the girls are like that, but it certainly seems like more than a handful who let guys get away with whatever they want and end up with nothing. How can these girls be so gullible?!?!?!? Is it because of their “need” to get married that clouds their judgement? I mean once burned twice shy, right? But that doesn’t seem true in cases like these. In such cases its more like once burned twice more likely to get burned because they are in desperate mode and end up making worst mistakes than the first time.

Hi Nadine,

I am a 22-year-old girl, and I am doing CA. In my past I had many boy friends. When I was 19 years I met a guy on the Internet in Lahore. We chatted and then we met one day and got involved in a physical relationship even though in the beginning I was not willing to do so. Anyway, I trusted him and thought that he would marry me or he wouldn’t have become physically involved with me. But he left me.

Then, when I was 20 I met a guy N at university. I told him about my past, but he still accepted me. However, he was very strict with me. In the beginning I had problems with it but then I started thinking that he was doing it for my own good and was right. After sometime, we got involved in a physical relationship. He told me that he had accepted me and already thought of me as his wife, so our relationship was legal.

I am in this relationship with him for about a year and a half now. During this period, I got pregnant as well and had an abortion. After that I started hating myself and him. He has gone back to his hometown and we are in contact just through phone. But now I am giving him less and less time, as I don’t feel like talking to him anymore. His strictness, and immature talks are making me sick and I don’t want to be with him anymore. I just don’t love him anymore so why should I continue?

Recently, I met another guy H who is my boss. He is 32 years old and single. I became attracted to him and confessed my love to him after two months. He said that he, too, loved me. He is very heart broken and sad from inside. Whenever he is sad, I just sense it and go out of my way to make him feel good and happy.

I don’t know what to do? Should I leave N and go for H? I never ever felt this way with N and love H more than anything. I even do things which are not so easy for me, and he really appreciates it.

Should I tell H about my past? After meeting him I stopped talking to all my other male friends, and am very sincere with him. Please tell me what I should do?

A girl

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